It is one thing to read a book cover to cover, but it’s another thing to uncover the different ways that the text can relate to your life. So began our quest for questions and adventures for answers that we would present in the debate. The B.R.A.W.L. made me realize something I had never recognized before. There is so much power behind a question. It triggers thought, emotion, conversation, opposition, and reaction.
Three Saturdays ago, I went out with one of my close friends for the first time in a long time. The weeks of FaceTime, texting, and Snapchat just weren’t cutting it for me, Frankly as humans, we are communicative creatures that crave interaction… outside a phone screen. Like a classic rendezvous, she quietly slipped into the table of our agreed dim corner in Starbucks. I couldn’t wait, I knew that we had a lot to catch up on —once she would put down her phone.
Friendships are quite puzzling things aren’t they? Some are meant to teach lessons, some are destined to become memories, and some might even last forever (also known as post-college).I used to be the girl that believed all friendships can be saved and a good match can be made. The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve realized how difficult it is to find someone that fits you well. Before you surrender yourself to the life alone with sixty cats, get comfortable with the assurance from me that there is someone like you out there.
We have all been in that situation where you have to witness your friend slowly changing in front of your own eyes. It is painful and this occurrence never really goes away. In kindergarten, you see your friend start to play with the bad group of friends that kick dirt at other kids at the playground. In middle school, you see your friend spend more time with the kids that don’t do anything unless it involves potential trouble. By high school, they’ve become part of the group that attends wild parties on the weekends. They’re drifting, no matter how much your friendship used to pull them back. Days turn into weeks until you have a real conversation with them. Your friend used to have it all together. Now your friendship is falling apart.
“When people walk away, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. They are in no way a bad person, but their part in your story is over.”
Growing up, I refused to think that no single problem could have no solution. Maybe I was too optimistic and cared too much for my little mind. This was until I realized that nothing can stop people from changing, even if they are changing for the worst. I think the reason why it’s so hard to turn around a person who has changed like this is because they have worked so hard to become another version of themselves. How many times have we pretended to have common interests just so we can be friends with someone? How many times have we stood by watching others doing something they shouldn’t be doing just because we don’t want to jeopardize our friendship? We value friendship so much that we find ourselves “compromising” just to preserve it. In all simplicity, we are who we surround ourselves with.
I used to think that was parental nonsense that my mom and dad would tell me. I mean, I would say the same thing to keep my kids out of trouble. I learned that it was true. You might not know it, but you’re changing. Change in life is inevitable, but it’s up to you to decide whether you’re going to let it be in a positive or negative way. You also can’t chose whether or not other people will affect you, but you can make it so at least it’ll be you and the good guys against the world in the end.